Carole noticed that Cliff was checking his watch again. "Got somewhere to go?" she asked. "We all do, you know, but unless we can get these people to stop bickering and start engineering, nothing else matters."
"I know, sorry," Cliff said. "But I'm out of ideas. They all believe they aren't the problem."
Carol, Cliff, and Daryl sat silently for a minute, though it seemed longer. Then Daryl had an idea. "What about conflict training? I hear from HR that they have someone and people say he's pretty good."
Cliff really had given up. "I can hear them now: 'Oh, training. Another day lost.'"
But Carole was more optimistic. "Let's do it. We've tried everything else. Maybe it'll help."
In desperation, and with good intentions, Carole, Cliff, and Daryl are about to deal with a team conflict problem with conflict training.
Training rarely hurts, but considering all the costs, it can be a mistake. To understand why, imagine waking up one morning with a pain in your left side. You call your doctor and manage somehow to get an appointment that morning. You walk into the office and say, "Doctor, my left side hurts. Please remove my appendix."
Self-diagnosis is risky
when your health is at stake,
and it's no less risky in
the organizational contextOf course, you'd never do that. Instead, you'd probably talk about your pain, and submit to an examination. Maybe it's appendicitis, but maybe not — it's unlikely, since normally, the appendix is on the right side.
Self-diagnosis is risky when your health is at stake, and it's no less risky in the organizational context. Instead of deciding for yourself what to do, have a consultant investigate what kind of problem there might be, then tell you what your options are, and recommend action.
Here are some advantages of professional assessment:
- If there's too much tension in the air, training might not be a fit. Some people might be too hurt or too steamed to learn much. You might need another kind of intervention first.
- When you include the cost of participant time, training can be more expensive than more direct and focused interventions. A professional assessment can control costs.
- Opportunity cost
- The people attending the training could be doing something else, and that work might be delayed by the time spent in training. The cost of those delays can be significant.
- Experts are more likely to uncover the real issue. You gain the benefit of their skill and experience with other organizations.
- Outsider status
- During the assessment, some people in your organization are more likely to reveal key information to the outside expert than they would be to you or to someone within your organization.
- It's difficult to be objective about interpersonal issues. Since we have a tendency to overlook our own contributions to problems, self-assessment can be less objective than a professional assessment.
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